Varadero Vixens

Hola muchachos!!! We are back from the best two weeks of our lives! We had an amazing time in Cuba and I don’t even know where to start with telling the tale. I guess from the beginning and I’ll see where that takes me.

Our flight was just after 6am on Tuesday, May 2, which means we had to be at the airport around 4am. Not wonderful but it’s a lot easier to get up early for a vacation than it is for work, so I didn’t mind. Leaving early just meant we got to the beach earlier! It’s also fun seeing 20 of your friends around the airport. Every time I ran into someone I perked up a little bit more.

Evan picked us up a couple of fitting passport holders for our trip.

Cuuuute.

We paid extra for everyone to sit together at the back of the plane, and I thought this included Evan and I, so I was surprised to find us upgraded at the front! On Sunwing flights you get complimentary champagne and they brought us all the leftover glasses so we were living large up there.

The trip was off to a good start for Evan Evanoff.

We had the speediest customs experience I’ve ever had at the Varadero airport. We were out of there quickly and on the bus to the resort. I was excited to find that we all had a bus to ourselves!

We were excited. The ride to our hotel was less than half an hour by bus but you know that’s enough time for a couple of bus cervezas!

We stayed at the Starfish Cuatro Palmas again, the same resort Evan and I got engaged at last year. I’ll save you another review of the actual hotel and the food, but I did that last year so you can check it out here. I actually didn’t take pictures of anything I ate this time and it was kind of refreshing!

Anyway, we arrived at our resort so early that our rooms weren’t ready yet, which I was prepared for so I told everyone in advance to make sure they had bathing suits easily accessible. We arrived and headed straight to the beach!

Casey, my Toronto blogger friend (who ran a freakin’ 50k on Saturday!!!), and I were twinning pretty hard. I had two of my other blogger friends in attendance as well, which was awesome, Shanondoah and Michelle!

They were known by everyone else all week as “the bloggers.” They needed a fourth member for an even number so they immediately adopted my friend Hannah into their group, or maybe she joined herself, I’m not sure which, but she became an honorary blogger for the week.

I loved all the co-mingling of the friend groups. It makes me happy.

The beach and the ocean there is AMAZING. One of the nicest beaches I’ve ever been on. Dawn’s mom Brennie (you may remember from her 60th birthday that we celebrated back in December) and Joel were definitely feeling that ocean hard.

We all were, it was a dream day. And I don’t know if it’s because we were tired or just because we couldn’t get into our rooms yet, but that day seemed to stretch on forever. We all said that day felt like the longest, but in a good way!

I wish I brought a tube for leisuring a la Sherrie.

We broke for lunch for a bit and then just got back into that ocean for the rest of the day.

Dawnald!

Bubbas up!

Evan can nap anywhere.

I have like 30 pictures of Emily trying to piggyback Joel.

It was not going well until they switched it up.

Man, it was a good ocean time.

We got into our rooms around 4pm and I was excited about our ocean view.

We had a street view last year and I also really enjoyed that because you could see all the old cars drive by and it was good for people-watching, but you can’t beat the ocean!

I also don’t think you can beat the sunset at this resort.

We hit the buffet for dinner and then all met up in the lobby bar for drinks. They had live music with dancers in the lobby bar every evening so that was a good time. Mark made new friends.

We would usually all hang out in the lobby bar after dinner until we headed out on the town, which we almost did every night. Our resort is across the street from the three best bars in Varadero so it was very convenient. On our first night we went to the Beatles Bar, an outdoor bar with live rock music every night, which you may remember me absolutely raving about last year.

Unfortunately our favourite rock star doesn’t work there anymore, which is sad. Evan and I were looking forward to introducing him to everyone. We like to think he got discovered and is now living it up in Havana. The new guys weren’t quite the same (their pants weren’t as tight, they didn’t light a smoke in the middle of their song, and they had their shirts on), but they were still quite entertaining.

It was a great night.

And a great day, and that’s only the first one! It was so nice the entire trip to look around and see all our friends having such a fabulous time. I don’t know how we’re ever going to be able to go on a trip without most of the people we know again.

I have so much more to come so hang tight.

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WE’RE MARRIED!!!

We are mawwwwwwwied!!!!

Yep, married!

Sunday went absolutely perfectly!!! I could not be happier. It did feel weird not having certain people with us when we officially tied the knot, like my brother, bestie and the bridal party, so I’m so excited to do it all again in Cuba with most of our best pals! But even if that wedding is a total disaster, I feel like we at least got one right! I’m sure it will be wonderful though because everyone will be there.

I don’t have many pictures yet so I’ll do a more detailed post once I have all those back…but I do have a few so I can give you a little sneak peek!

On Saturday afternoon Evan and I dropped by Globe Bistro (where the ceremony and reception were taking place) so we could drop off some stuff, like our cake!!!

I was SO HAPPY about our cake! My friend Cathy who I worked with at Girl Guides made it (CakesbyNACJ) and it was so much better than I even pictured. I showed her a picture of my bouquet and she matched the flowers so well. I loved it, and it was so delicious! The top was vanilla coconut and the bottom was vanilla with lemon.

It was so nice to go to the venue with Evan and scope out the setup just the two of us.

Isn’t that sign amazing? My friend Melissa made it for us.

It was really coming together in the reception room.

Just missing the centrepieces. Seeing everything set up just made all my nervousness go away and I felt ready to get married!

My mom has been staying with us since Tuesday (she lives in BC) so on Sunday morning we got up at 4am so we could pick up Evan’s mom and head to his cousin Barb’s house to get ready. Apparently when you have a brunch wedding you have to get up super early — our hair and makeup artist Natalie was arriving at 6am to make us presentable!

Getting ready together at Barb’s was awesome — she and her husband were such great hosts and made us smoked salmon and cream cheese on bagels, coffee, and mimosas (it’s never too early for a mimosa!). I was so thankful to them for having us. It was the best place to get ready. My morning was leisurely and stress-free.

Natalie absolutely SLAYED my face and hair, and I was ready to get married before 9am.

Gahh, I looked so good. The best I’ve ever looked (and probably will ever look) for sure. And I could not get over how beautiful my mom looked!!!

She was just glowing. So beautiful. I can’t wait to see the pictures of her helping me into my dress!

I left Barb’s just before 10am, our wedding planner Tracey (one of the best things about our day, seriously) drove me over to Brickworks to meet Evan for a first look and pictures together. I was so glad we did that, even though it was FREEZING. The pics will be worth it. I can’t wait for those. In the meantime, our photographer Nicole got a quick photo of us on my phone that I can share with ya!

Aww. All ready for wedding things. Evan is so damn handsome. My heart skipped a beat when I saw him waiting for me. What a groom I have!

Once we arrived at the restaurant I got a pic of Evan pinning the boutonniere on his brother, aka Brotherman, aka the Best Man.

So cute. I should mention that all our flowers (including my bouquet) were fake flowers (but not silk, almost like a rubber so they even feel real!) and they were done by Ashley at From The Stem Up. She did a great job. I love my bouquet so much.

I’ll share more about the ceremony and reception when I get pictures back but here’s a few guests photos I’ve been able to snag. My handsome and proud dad walking me down the aisle!

Our ceremony was PERFECTION.

I forgot to pass off my bouquet, whoops.

Our Reverend Heather Power was so great. She helped us put together the most perfect ceremony that felt really personal to us. People were raving to us afterwards about how amazing our ceremony was, and maybe they always say that but it did feel really good. I couldn’t keep myself together. Evan’s cousin Barb did a reading during the ceremony and that made me lose it as well. It was so sweet. First kiss as husband and wife!

We’re official! I was very determined to sign those documents. We did a candle lighting for our grandparents and family members who were no longer with us, which was really sweet and also brought some tears to my eyes when I thought of my and Evan’s Nana’s.

Unfortunately my MOH Lisa couldn’t make it to the Toronto wedding (she will be in Cuba!) but I had a fabulous stand-in MOH as my witness, my friend Beth who I met on the very first day of Grade 9.

She brought a great friend of mine from elementary school, Allison, as her date and I was so glad to have them both there.

After the ceremony we ate delicious brunch food and drank mimosas and wine and mingled with our guests. It was wonderful. My cousin Allie and her daughter Nora made it all the way from BC! Actually, her wedding is one of my favourites of all time. This is her and my auntie Nancy.

Evan and I cutting that delicious cake!

It was the perfect day. It was small, intimate and personal and we really felt the love of our families. And I can’t think of one thing that went wrong, which is mostly due to our wedding planner Tracey! I will talk more about her in my official recap but we were SO GLAD to have her help. She was invaluable and I felt like neither of us had to worry about a single thing the entire day. She was always there taking care of things and she even packed up all our stuff at the end of the day! I don’t know what we’re going to do without her in Cuba.

Evan’s grandma unfortunately couldn’t make it so we dropped by her apartment in our wedding attire on our way home. She was so happy to see her grandson on his wedding day. She was so cute.

So, I guess that’s it for now! I’ll be instagramming from Cuba for sure, possibly Snapchat if I can get it to work, their internet is weird so we shall see. Have a great week and a half! Wish us luck on wedding #2.

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Spring Flings

This week has somehow flown by but also dragged on and on. I don’t know how that’s possible but I guess I’m super anxious to get this wedding show on the road and I’ve also been really busy tying up loose ends for the weddings and work. I feel pretty set now and generally less stressed about things, so that’s good! My skin has been having a bit of a freak out though. It’s like it knows the wedding’s coming so it’s rebelling. I have a giant zit on my chin that has been lurking under the surface since MONDAY. Gah. Just friggin’ do your thing and get it over with, zit! Either come to the surface already or get outta here, why are you dragging it out?! I bet it’s just going to turn my entire chin into a zit come Sunday, you just wait.

As of noon today I am officially on vacation! Our family wedding here is on Sunday and then we are off to Cuba for 9 days to do it all again! I’m so excited. I’m going to try to pop in on Monday for a quick update on the Toronto wedding and then I’m probably not going to be blogging for a couple of weeks — Cuban internet is a sketch fest and I’ll be hanging out on the beach with 34 of our friends!!! HEYO!

Anyway, it’s been really wedding heavy around here lately, so let’s talk about other things that have been going on.

A few weekends ago we hit up a Jays game with a bunch of our pals to celebrate my friend Joanna’s birthday. We got a sweet suite, same as last year!

The Jays actually won, which is a rare occurrence for them lately. I don’t know what’s going on with them but they need to step it up. Get it together, boys!

We still love them though.

Joanna had a really great cake at her Jays birthday last year and I didn’t think anything would be able to top it but then I saw this:

And that cake takes the cake. It’s probably one of the greatest cakes I’ve ever seen (and I’ve seen some good cakes!).

It was really delicious, too. Even the fondant was good, and that is rare!

Our Cuba wedding emcee stole my phone and took a bunch of selfies, here is a beautiful sample.

It was a really good time. I love going to games and it’s even better with a group.

Last Monday after work I headed to Hamilton to see the Dixie Chicks with my pals Dawn and Emily, and Emily’s coworker (now our friend) Heather.

Someone missed the plaid memo. But I guess I missed the boot memo.

The Dixie Chicks were FANTASTIC!!

Our seats weren’t wonderful, but we didn’t mind and I have to say that the FirstOntario Centre in Hamilton (where we saw Garth Brooks last year too) is a much better venue than the ACC in Toronto. They also had screens, which was helpful.

I haven’t really listened to the Dixie Chicks lately but I looooove them and they played all their hits! It took me back to high school for sure. I do feel like the Ready To Run song would have been less poignant last year (when their tour started) before Donald Trump won the election. The screens had cartoons of Hillary and the Donald on them during that song, and I think it would have been funny back when there was still hope. But now it was more sad than anything. Goodbye Earl is still my fave and you know we screamed that song! Ah, they were great.

Last Sunday Evan and I went to our friends’ Renee and Dustin’s Jack & Jill (they are also getting married this year).

Pies in the face may have happened.

I’ve talked about Jack & Jill’s before (<- that links to Dawn and Mark’s tropical Jack & Jill which was a super fun time). They’re also known as a Stag & Doe and are basically a fundraiser for the wedding. They’re a ton of fun and pretty much my favourite kind of party. There’s a lot of booze and games and raffles, and it’s a good way to get to know a lot of the wedding guests before the actual wedding. Many of our friends were Renee and Dustin’s though so we knew a lot of the guests already. I took no pictures but luckily our friend Alicia had that covered.

And I don’t know what’s up with her camera but I feel like it was filtering my face and I liked it.

I also got my brows done on Friday for wedding things and I feel like for the first time in my life they’re on fleek.

Anyway, the Jack & Jill was a great time. It was a in a bar that Renee and Dustin had rented out for the occasion so it was just like going to a bar full of all people we knew and then some fun characters we didn’t. Evan and I decided not to have a Jack & Jill since we’re having a destination wedding and it’s not as expensive as your typical wedding, but you better believe if we were having a wedding here we would have had one. They’re always a good party. I love them. And it was fun to commiserate with Renee about the wedding planning process.

Speaking of Jack & Jill’s, one of the best ones I’ve ever been to was my friend Melissa’s up in Muskoka, and it was actually her baby shower the day after Renee and Dustin’s J&J!

I need a new pose for pictures. I should probably work on that before Sunday.

Melissa is one of my oldest friends and I’m so excited for her and her husband Will. You may remember me blogging about her amazing wedding also. The day of her baby shower was GORGEOUS and the shower took place at her dad’s cottage on Lake Simcoe so it could not have been a more perfect setting.

Summer’s comin!

I had a lot of fun celebrating her and her baby-to-be, I can’t wait to meet that little chicken nugget!

Have a great weekend! I KNOW I WILL!!!!!

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The Home Stretch

Remember when I said a while ago that this wedding planning ain’t no thang and I almost didn’t want to say it because I didn’t want to jinx it but the process had been fairly simple? Yeah, I jinxed it. We’re 9 days out now and this week has been the most stressful yet. I think also because work has been really busy and I don’t really have time to think about anything but work at work, and then my evenings have been alllll wedding (okay well Monday I went to the Dixie Chicks concert in Hamilton and that was fantastic).

Anyway, VENTING AHEAD!

On Tuesday I heard from our Cuba wedding coordinator (who is in Canada, she’s the liaise between us and the resort until we actually get on the resort) that the resort had accidentally double-booked our wedding date with ANOTHER wedding. IDIOTS.

So, she asked if we could move our wedding from Saturday to Sunday. I was actually shocked that this happened because I was just going on about how I didn’t think this resort had ever hosted a wedding — and then they have two ON THE SAME DAY?! What are the chances??

Well, here’s what happened. We had to change our wedding date shortly after booking everything because the Sunwing flights from Calgary and Vancouver, that my MOH and brother (and others) were on got cancelled and pushed back two/three days. This had my brother Eric and friends arriving on the same day as the wedding, in the evening though, so they would miss it. Eric is walking me down the aisle at the Cuba wedding and he’s also a groomsman so…he’s a very important fixture and needs to be there. You may remember me going on about this a while ago. So we pushed our wedding date back a day, from the Friday to the Saturday. The resort (my Canadian contact) confirmed this was fine, we rebooked the photographer in Varadero, updated all our attendees, and all was well. Except it wasn’t because I guess somehow the resort’s main calendar did not get updated and they still had our wedding date on Friday, leaving the Saturday open which they then booked with another wedding. Ugh.

Pushing the wedding date back another day is not ideal. That will be five days after we arrive, when I initially wanted it three days after we arrived. I feel like we’re not going to be able to truly relax until the wedding happens, and the Toronto group is probably going to be bloated (alcohol and eating too much) and sunburnt AF by then.

But, what can ya do. It’s not really the same as moving a wedding date here because everyone’s already going to be in Cuba and it’s not like they have plans aside from leisuring on the beach for that day. It’s annoying but it is what it is.

Instead of fighting it I just agreed to the date change because I didn’t want the other group to refuse to move and then we have two weddings on the same day, which, the resort is so small they wouldn’t be able to accommodate that and it would be a total shirtshow. I also know it’s difficult for our wedding planner in Canada to communicate with the resort because you know they’re all on island time over there and probably not getting back to her. Moving seemed like the least disastrous option and our wedding is now on the Sunday.

I did express how disappointed I was about the entire thing, because this is the second time our wedding date has been changed due to external (SUNWING!!) factors and I’m generally feeling like we’re the second rate wedding. Which is sad to me because that resort means so much to us and we booked it almost immediately after returning from getting engaged there last year. I spoke with our wedding coordinator though and we’re not getting charged now for a few aspects of the wedding so I guess I’ll take that.

We also had an unexpected issue with family this weekend. I don’t want to get into it on here but it was really upsetting and isn’t resolved, and I’m not sure if it will be resolved before the wedding, so that sucks. And we had Evan’s family over for Easter brunch at the time so unfortunately I was a mess of tears in front of them (it had nothing to do with them and I was glad they were there, but I hate being upset in front of people). Before that happened I was nothing but excited but that has brought a slight damper. But as I’ve been hearing from many people who are already married, is a wedding really a wedding without a bit of family drama?

Apparently it’s not.

As my friend Sherrie helpfully pointed out, it comes in threes, so I’m bracing myself for something else to go wrong. I’m hoping that maybe the flights initially being changed can count as a thing, so then that’s three and we’re done. Oh! Our labels for the wine favours we’re doing for the Toronto wedding were kind of messed up. Vistaprint left a big white strip at the top when they printed them, so Evan had to cut them all with an exacto knofe. But I’m not sure if that’s a big enough problem to count as a thing. They still look great, I think.

I’ve noticed that as the day gets closer I’m more willing to throw money at problems to make them go away. I was super frugal in the beginning but now I ask myself if paying a bit more means I don’t have to do anything. Yes? Then take my money.

And speaking of money, we’ve heard some rumblings along the lines of “why are you having two weddings, that must be so expensive and you could be using that money for something else.” (you probably know if you’ve planned a wedding that everyone has an opinion about YOUR wedding.) So for anyone thinking about having a destination wedding but wanting to have a small family thing at home first, I’ll just say that having two small weddings like we’re doing is actually less than half the price of the average cost of one wedding. It’s budget-friendly!

We’re also keeping our Toronto wedding at around 30 people, which is very difficult to do. It’s nearly all family — I have one close friend who is coming and she is also my witness and will be standing up there with me. We couldn’t invite everyone who couldn’t make it to Cuba and we have some very close friends who unfortunately just won’t be at our wedding at all. But if you open it up at all, where do you draw the line? Family only (almost), this is the way we chose to do it.

As I said to Evan, we only get to get married twice once so we gotta do what feels right to us!!!

Anywhoozle, other than those things everything has been going pretty swimmingly. I’m so glad we have Tracey for the Toronto wedding because she’s definitely taken a lot of stress off us. I don’t know what I would do without her. I was reading the runsheet she put together for the family wedding and she has even scheduled in some alone time for Evan and I after the ceremony, AND she has scheduled for the restaurant to leave h’ors deouvres for us at our table because we’re going to miss them during cocktail hour when we’re getting pictures. I totally swooned when I read that. She is thinking of everything!

Oh and THANK YOU for all your comments about the name change dilemma! I haven’t had time to respond to them all, but I read them all and so appreciated reading about everyone’s stories and thoughts on the subject. I’m pretttttty sure I’m leaning towards changing it. When I think of us having the same family name it makes me feel safe and warm and fuzzy. I think I’m a little sentimental about it.

9 days out, and then 16 days out!!! It’s happening!

And at least if one wedding is a total disaster we have a second chance to get it right.

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Music Monday: 13 Reasons Why

I’ve been watching and loving (although it’s slightly ruining me) 13 Reasons Why — I still have a few episodes left so no spoilers!

It’s so heartbreaking but so good and it covers such a difficult subject so well (so far at least). Man, it makes me glad I’m not in high school anymore. All that teenage drama and angst, no thank you. Just be nice to each other! Also, I love Clay — he kind of reminds me of a younger Evan. He may be shy and awkward now but he’s really going to grow into his catch!

Anyway, as I was watching I noticed that 13 Reasons Why has really great music. A few of the songs have been a staple on my iPhone tunes playlist for years, and a few are new to me and I am just completely loving them. The soundtrack kind of reminds me of a John Hughes movie from the 80s so it’s got a nostalgic vibe. Much Breakfast Club, it’s great.

These aren’t all the songs in the show but at least the ones I thought to check out. I also looked up some of the songs in the later episodes that I haven’t seen yet.

Clicking on any of the songs links will take you to their YouTube video.

Amused – Hunger

24 – Sleigh Bells

Atmosphere – Codeine (Joy Division cover — it’s lovely)

Bye Bye Bye – School of Seven Bells

Cowards Starve – Protomartyr

Doing It To Death – The Kills (digging this one a lot)

Everything Always – Ctznshp

Fascination Street – The Cure

Game of Survival – Ruelle

The Great Longing – Lost Under Heaven (LUH)

In A Black Out – Hamilton, Leithauser & Rotsam

Into The Black – Chromatics (beautiful Neil Young cover!)

Love Will Tear Us Apart – Joy Division (total classic)

Mess Is Mine – Vance Joy (love Vance Joy and love this song)

My life in Rewind – Eagulls

The Night We Met – Lord Huron (what a beautiful song!!! I’m so glad 13 Reasons Why introduced me to it)

Only You – Selena Gomez

Reunion – M83 (this has been one of my favourite songs for a while — it’s been on my iPhone tunes playlist since like 2012 and it’s one of those songs that I’ll never skip if it comes on while my iPod is on shuffle.)

Run Boy Run – Woolkid (I am really loving this song — it totally sounds like a video game promo song and it’s been in a ton of those as well as TV shows and movies. but this is somehow the first time I’ve really noticed it. It makes me wanna go for a run!)

Same Dark Places – JR JR

The Stand – The Alarm

Thirteen – Elliott Smith

Vienna – Ultravox

The Walls Come Down – The Stand

Young & Unafraid – The Moth & The Flame (this one was actually in my first Music Monday playlist a few weeks ago)

Hope you enjoy as much as I am!

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Evan-on or Evanoff?

I still haven’t decided yet if I’m going to take Evan’s last name after we get married.

I keep going back in forth in my decision. I like the idea of taking Evan’s name (Furlanic), but I also like the idea of keeping mine (Evanoff). And I also like the idea of Evan taking my last name so he can officially be Evan Evanoff — that definitely has the best ring to it. Evan says that we should both change our last name’s to Evanon, haha.

It’s a big conundrum. I still really don’t know so I’m just going to go through some arguments. Maybe typing this out will make me come to a realization.

First of all, I like that I have the choice. I don’t have to take his last name. Sure it’s “tradition” but many brides these days keep their maiden name. Evan is pretty indifferent and says the decision is mine and he’s supportive no matter what I choose, which is great because I have heard stories of men being upset when their wives didn’t take their last name.

I like to think that I’m a feminist, so does taking Evan’s name make me less of one? Although, feminism is just having the same opportunities and choices as men, and again, I have a choice. So I don’t think I would choose to not take his last name just because I’m taking a feminist stand. That’s not a strong enough argument for me. I can still be a feminist and take his name, it’s my choice!

Always and forever.

Pronunciation-wise and weird-sounding-wise, our last name’s are kind of on the same page. It’s not like I would be going from Evanoff to a simpler last name like Smith or Jones or something. Whichever name I have people will still ask me where it originated from (although if I take Evan’s name they might stop assuming I’m Russian). I think our names are on the same page in uniqueness also, so I like that. I like that I wouldn’t be going from something unique to something common. I don’t know any other Evanoff’s and I don’t know any other Furlanic’s.

Hyphenating our last names is out of the question. My name is already quite a mouthful — Lindsey-anne Elizabeth. Can you imagine Lindsey-anne Elizabeth Evanoff-Furlanic? Gah! No. I thought about dropping my middle name and putting my last name in there instead and then taking Evan’s last name as mine, but my grandmother’s name was Elizabeth (my mom’s mom) so I want to keep it. So, there will be no keeping both.

Yes, I’m proud of my identity. Of course! But, I’m not overly attached to my last name — it’s only been a family name for a couple generations. My grandfather (my papa, Nana’s husband) changed our last name from Dimitroff to Evanoff when he came to Canada from Bulgaria because he wanted our last name to sound “less foreign” (pretty sure he should have just dropped the ‘off’ altogether if that was his goal, but anyway). But my Nana’s last name is Evanoff, my dad’s last name is Evanoff, and I’ve always liked being an Evanoff. Though at least if I change it my brother will still be an Evanoff so I’m not the end of the line!

At the same time, everyone knows me as Lindsey Evanoff. Many of my friends just call me Evanoff (which gets confusing sometimes because when they start saying my name Evan will assume they’re talking to him). Most of my friends will probably still just call me Evanoff though. Or Jug-jugs. It’s not like I’m totally erasing my identity.

I’ve been surprised when some of my childhood friends got married and immediately changed their names, but I don’t know why! Many of them were planning on doing that for years. I know some people dream of bring a Mrs. In my head though I will always associate them with their maiden names.

Professionally I don’t think it will harm me to change my name. Sure, I’m known in my field as me, but I don’t think it’s that big of a deal. Although it will be annoying for people at work to have to remember to call me a different name all of a sudden (and annoying to change my email). I thought about having two names, legally changing my name to Evan’s but keeping my own last name professionally, but that seems like it would get real confusing real quick.

I like that the name Evan, which is an important name in my family, will always be a part of me because of Evan. So it’s not like I’m losing that. I guess you can look at it like I’ll be Mrs. Evan Furlanic and then I’m sort of keeping part of my name!

If we have kids, I like the idea of us all having the same last name. Like we’re a solid family unit. Not that people who have parents with different last names are less of a family, but you know.

I like the idea of having the same name as my kids. I also like that for traveling and whatnot it would be clear I’m their mom because I share their name. Also, less questions and less explaining about our relationship in general. Same name is clearly husband and wife. That and the kid thing might be the biggest argument in favour of changing my name.

I don’t like that it is SUCH a hassle with endless paperwork to change your name. I’m lazy and that seems like it’s a serious headache-inducing task. The time consuming maze of paperwork is a big argument to not change my name.

Or maybe we could both change our last name’s to something like…Furlanoff.

Agh, I know it comes down to personal preference. Do what you feel. Do what’s right for you. But I still don’t know!!! I think after reading this I might be leaning towards changing it… Or not changing it? Ahh I just don’t know!

Married friends, did you change your name? Why or why not? I could use some insight!

I also really like my signature and wouldn’t be thrilled about having to change it!

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